Have you ever loved with everything you had, and it wasn’t enough?
Carrie O’Toole experienced the pain and suffering of infertility, miscarriage, and an international adoption that went painfully awry. Nothing could have prepared her for the decade-long journey of trying to love her little boy, who struggled to trust and connect after leaving the only home he’d ever known, a Vietnamese orphanage.
Although this situation may be unique to Carrie, everyone can relate to the pain of love and loss, heartbreak and grief, trying to make life work when every effort fails. Relinquished: When Love Means Letting Go will take you through the emotional journey and struggle to find answers to the question many people face at some point—what if my love is not enough? What if the only way for healing to occur is for me to let go?
“This is a deeply moving memoir that I simply couldn’t put down! Carrie O’Toole fearlessly bears her soul about her experience with international adoption, and society owes her a debt of gratitude for doing so. I hope this book serves as a huge wake-up call not just to orphanages and adoption agencies, but to parents and caretakers of all kinds. We simply must learn more about attachment issues and their lasting impact on a child’s development, and Carrie has done a masterful job of imparting this wisdom and insight!”
– Shannon Ethridge, M.A., Best-selling Author, Speaker, and Life/Relationship Coach
“I can say from experience that raising adopted children is very challenging. It can be like having strangers in your house all the time. Those who have not experienced these things will have easy solutions. Easy Answers. This book goes much deeper, and will help couples considering adoption to know more of what they may be taking on, before they commit. Love does not conquer all; but through God’s love and the support of mature Christian friends, we grow, especially during the most difficult of times.”
– Larry O. Sanders, M.D., Board Certified in Psychiatry and Neurology
“You’ll be hard-pressed to find a more vulnerable account of a woman who’s faced a dark night of the soul. Carrie has vulnerably authored an account of her tortuous journey to let us know that we are not alone in our struggle to find peace, both in ourselves and in our relationships. Speaking as one of her confidants through her difficult and lonely journey, I applaud Carrie’s selflessness and strength. She shows us that we can trust in the sovereignty of a loving God. She is a true modern day hero.”
– Mary Ellen Mann, LCSW, President of Mann Counseling Group, and Co-Founder of Last Battle.