When You Can’t Quite Get It Together
Do you ever think “everyone else seems to have their lives together? “
What’s wrong with me? Why do others have happier families, better marriages, kids who love them, careers they enjoy, better health, and more money?
It’s not just Facebook, it’s everywhere.
-Pictures of happy couples welcoming their new babies, when you struggle with infertility.
-People celebrating long marriages, when yours is loveless and cold, you’ve been single for longer than you hoped, or you’ve just been divorced.
-College acceptance letters, when you (or your child) struggle with mental health issues, and will be lucky to finish high school without being expelled or incarcerated.
-Spring Break pictures of smiling families on beaches, when you can’t figure out how to pay your rent this month.
-Friends telling of amazing family reunions, when your family is fractured.
-Celebrating someone’s promotion, when you try so hard to love your job and the people you work with, but every day is challenging.
-Posts of people at the top of mountains, waterskiing, or running marathons, when your body is in chronic pain.
Since I began blogging, I’ve tried to be authentic. I’ve shared my struggles because I was sick of feeling like I was the only one striving. I knew there were others like me, but I didn’t see many people sharing their battles. There were plenty of feel good stories, but not many truthful, raw stories about the pain I understood. I shared because it gave a voice to my wounds.
I went through a very difficult 15 year period. As I healed, I found I really enjoyed being on the other side of the agony. I earned my masters degree and became a Life Coach. I liked the feeling of helping others through their strife. I wanted to be the expert, and guide others from my position on the OTHER side of the pain.
In the last 6 months however, I found myself back in the middle of it. No longer the expert, but the co-struggler again. You know what happened? I couldn’t blog about it.
Miss Authenticity found herself hiding and quiet. I didn’t want to be back there. I didn’t want to share. Some of it was not mine to share. Some of it was embarrassing to share. I just didn’t have the energy to craft a message, think of a topic, or figure out the technology involved (minimal as it is). I was back in survival mode.
Well, I’m back. Not as the expert, but as your friend and coach.
I’m working on a way to share what I’ve learned that may help when you can’t quite get it together.
A major thing I’ve learned is that if you wait to have it all together, you’ll never do anything. So even though I have great plans to improve in the future, I’m still going to do this today.
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